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J. Shep's avatar

Is there something missing from this talent vs. hard work dynamic — Joy?

If you're going to put in a lot of hard work, it's gotta to be something you enjoy doing or enjoy having done. There are going frustrations you need to push through and failures you need to get past. That's hard to deal with if you don't like something about the process or results.

This doesn't change the advice given — try things, work hard, be tenacious, commit — but could help explain why you'd put in all this work. Though you could just be delusional and think it's something you want. That probably works too.

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Reading this makes me realize that one of the issues caused by a narcissistic parent is the talent vs. effort praise: a narcissist LOVES to see talent in their kids, because it seems like a reflection on them. But they couldn't care less about whether their kid is putting in their own effort. That is something I have to overcome as an adult now (who was "talented/smart" enough to just coast through school)

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