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Matthew S.'s avatar

There were some interesting data that came out recently in a study from Columbia that shows that while all teens are reporting more anxiety and unhappiness, conservative teens, on the whole, are happier than liberal teens, and I think that's an interesting aspect here.

I don't envy teens now. When I was in middle school, I was mercileslessly bullied, but at least when I got off the bus at my house, I knew it was over for the day. I cannot imagine how bad it would have been if I got bullied at school, and then I got home, jumped on my phone, and then realized that people were talking shit about me to each other on public social media accounts in veiled terms.

This is an issue that strikes very close to home for me, because my son is a junior in high school now, but when he was a freshman, we had a serious issue where he was being viciously bullied IRL and on social media, and some of the people bullying him on social media were pretending to be his friends in real life. And my son, while not autistic, does exhibit some of the difficulties in picking up on nuanced social cues that autistic people can sometimes exhibit, and these little assholes were taking advantage of it.

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Is it the smartphones, or is it social media?

The toxic tendencies and ideological framing of social media have been well-documented. If social media is pushing one kind of belief and morality system as an echo chamber, complete with positive reinforcements and punishments, then that can cause a painful amount of cognitive dissonance if one does not agree with every jot and tittle. And I haven't even gotten into the bullying as just plain meanness, without an agenda.

The biggest indictments of smartphones seem to be twofold:

1) the "electronic pacifier" that prevents ad hoc, random social interactions. Some of this is "not new"--why going to the movies has long been a bad first date.

2) Replacing the need to go into "meatspace" and "touch grass". As an older person, I have long had to make socializing a deliberate activity and not wait on ad hoc opportunities, due to the omnipresence of grown-up tasks like work, housework, etc.. Maybe the young don't quite grasp that. I know I had to learn that when I got out of college. Maybe smartphones are replacing that lesson, or delaying the need to learn that lesson, or teaching the wrong lesson.

You mention alcohol and driver's licenses. Ever since Generation X entered adolescence, we have branded kids and young adults (18-20YOs) as terminally irresponsible and incapable of making decisions for themselves. Have young people taken all of this MADDness to heart, and internalized this sense of learned helplessness far beyond what was intended? We have young people literally afraid to "adult", as a verb. Maybe we've scared them out of meatspace and into cyberspace.

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