Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Forever Single: DATING WHITE PPL

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Here's the deal, guys. People of Color living in the great white midwest don't have a lot of options when it comes to our dating pool. Surrounded by a sea of tall scandinavians in redwing boots means that you're gonna have to either work really hard to meet a nice brown boy, or work with what you got. Obviously that is a gross generalization of the complexities of cross-cultural romance, but you get what I'm sayin! We have invited our good friend Soleil Ho to talk to us about some of the many challenges that come with having a white partner, since her husband is like, the king of gangly white dudes (sup chris ilu).

So without further ado, here are... 11 Challenges of Having a White Partner!


11 Challenges of Having a White Partner

Dating white people is tricky -- when you're a person of color. Even though the Supreme Court's Loving v. Virginia decision legalized cracker fever in the U.S. 47 years ago, many American PoC still hesitate to embrace our lighter, whiter bretheren (in the Biblical sense). Now, why is that? Shouldn't we be rushing in droves to bring some of that Aryan hotness home to show our grandmas that we finally made it to the big time?

The thing is, dating a white person can result in a whole lot of frustrating drama for the melanated partner. It's definitely easier if the latter is totally cool with that white supremacy deal -- that means a lot of their partner's bullshit can fly just fine. Go ahead and lighten up your people, babygirl. But for the rest of us, the struggle to reconcile our white thirst with our self-love can often lead to some seriously fucked up encounters and painful conversations. I wouldn't blame anyone for forgoing that.

Thus, presented for your perusal is this handy listicle of the top 11 challenges of having a white partner!

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Learning the language. Dating a white person means you'll have to learn lots of strange terms and idioms... that are mostly old slang "upcycled" from the words black people don't use anymore. It's like those shabby-chic wine glasses made from Mason jars? Get used to wearing your "fly kicks" to the "turn up function," "homeslice."

People will fetishize your children, if you are in a relationship where having them is an option. Think mixed-race babies are cute? Prepare to have your appreciation for them completely dissolved by day three of dating a white person because YOU WILL NEVER STOP HEARING ABOUT IT. You could possibly leverage this by selling ringside tickets to the birth of your next child.

Surprise racism during sex. Imagine this: you're in the zone, out of your mind and grinding up on your white partner. Just as you're about to climax, they moan, "I never thought I'd be fucking an Asian girl!" And then everything goes cold. Seriously, the only thing worse than getting blue balls is getting blue balls because of racism.

Convincing them to use their whiteness to get you into classy functions like the Emmys or KKK rallies. Ever heard of a "hood pass," the legendary piece of cred that grants a white person the power to say the N-word? If white people are to be believed, their "black friends" have been giving those out like candy. Well, I'm here to tell you that there's something even better than that: the "white pass." It'll get you into Fashion Week shows, ping pong games, and Ivy League schools! Unfortunately, getting your white partner to give you one is close to impossible -- they get really uppity if you even mention it. I think it's like Fight Club?

Pink aureoles. You're gonna have to get used to nipples looking like scallop sashimi. Need I say any more? Have fun with that.

White privilege. Constantly reminding them to be aware of their learned patterns of white supremacist behavior can be such a drag. It's pretty much a physical law that they'll be like, "Can't everyone succeed if they just try hard?" or "George Zimmerman was right!" just as you start thinking that they're finally on the level.

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White people food at parties and family functions. Tater tot hotdish, green bean casserole,* mini-quiches, and more await you. You might want to keep an mini-bottle of Sriracha in your purse. And even though the white person you're dating might express a distaste towards that type of food, be wary of upcoming parties where they may cook it for their friends "ironically." (Keep a mini-bottle of rum in your purse, too.)

When it comes to your culture's traditional clothing, the white person you're dating will probably 1) look really stupid in it and 2) insist on wearing it anyway for that key cross-cultural photo op. Even if you don't care too much about this, they will see it as an integral moment of "cultural exchange" that will give them permission to wear Native American headdresses and cheongsams to Halloween parties until the end of time. Thanks to the Internet, the headache this incident causes you will be amplified exponentially, reaching across time and space to give thousands of other brown people headaches as they search for trad clothing pix on Google.

You need to wait for them to apply sunscreen whenever you go out. I'm not just talking about the beach or desert, where it's always a good idea to have sunscreen on. I'm talking the dog park. Rally's. The corner store. Your front porch. You'll have to budget an extra ten minutes of getting-ready time for every outing, or else your partner's ghostly complexion will blister and burn like the Nazis in Raiders of the Lost Ark.
*insert side eye here*


A big nose gets in the way of makeouts. Seriously, it's like shoving your face into a chicken wing.

You run the risk of becoming a symbol for a post-racial world. When you date a white person, your thirst for their hot tits will often be misinterpreted as a beautiful coming-together (haha) of the races and the destruction of cultural boundaries. You might even find a cute selfie you took of you and your white partner included in a Tumblr collage with the text, “LOVE HAS NO COLOR,” or “Fuck Racism, Have Mixed Babies!” Shouldering the responsibility for solving the Race Question can put a lot of pressure onto a relationship, especially when all you wanna do is drink red wine and fuck.



* January 12th Correction: Soleil discovered that Chimichangas are in fact a Mexican dish, so we have taken it out of the article. Have a wonderful day, everyone. ( ˘ ³˘)❤

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Soleil Ho is a badass writer and a good friend to have when you get dumped, who is living and teaching in New Orleans. She is the non-fiction editor for Quaint Magazine, and has been published in all sorts of cool places like Bitch and Interrupt Mag. You can read more of her work on her writerly Tumblr

22 comments:

  1. Dating isn't equal opportunity. To BW in the Midwest who want to date interracially, GOOD LUCK! While it may be easy as bean casserole for an Asian woman to attract a man from the Great, White North, that's not the case for BW. We are both hypervisual (in the "what in hell are YOU doing here?!" sense) and invisible when it comes to being on WM's dating radar.

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  2. "You run the risk of becoming a symbol for a post-racial world." Is that really so wrong??

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  3. These SJWs are the most racist bigots I've ever seen. But wait, it doesn't count! Its towards white people.

    At least you twats aren't involved in the real world. Blogging on the internet doesn't actually do anything, so please, keep it up.

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  4. This isn't real, right? This is satire...right?! Because if it isn't, then you, Amalia, are one racist asshole. Seriously. So many of you SJWs act as though you're fighting racism when really you just hate white people (white, straight, able-bodied males to be specific) and it's disgusting. You take away attention from those that are ACTUALLY trying to better society and I can't make it more blunt than: You SJWs fucking suck.

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  5. "old slang "upcycled" from the words black people don't use anymore"
    insinuating black culture is inferior and that white people acquiring the terms is "upcycling"
    insinuating that it is only black culture where these terms start and are used
    insinuating that this is in fact black culture instead of just a culture of certain economic or geographical groups

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  6. As a white person, I don't even understand these racist generalizations. A big nose? White people have big noses? Okay.... And also, most white people don't give a damn about sunscreen.

    It's almost as if these author doesn't know any white people and just made up what they thought they're like!

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  7. >that are mostly old slang "upcycled" from the words black people don't use anymore

    Because every culture is just a shitty copy of black culture, right?

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  8. "Get used to wearing your "fly kicks" to the "turn up function," "homeslice."

    Has the OP, you know, actually met a white person who isn't from the 90s? Just asking.

    ""George Zimmerman was right!""

    Zimmerman is a latino. Or don't they count as POC anymore?

    "You need to wait for them to apply sunscreen whenever you go out."

    How is this a white person thing? I've seen paler East-Asians do this, and I've seen plenty of white people of Italian, Greek or Iberian descent go without. It's almost as if the OP thinks all white people are middle-aged wealthy Anglo-Saxon American dorks from the 90s.

    "A big nose gets in the way of makeouts"

    Or you know, Jewish dorks from the 90s.

    "White people food at parties and family functions."

    O_O

    Yeah, it's not like there's Italian, French, Spanish or Greek food or anything. White people all have generic 90s wonderbread and mayo meals and there's no variation based on geography or culture. White people are all the same amirite?

    "I never thought I'd be fucking an Asian girl!"

    This isn't a white person thing, This is a dickhead thing.

    " You're gonna have to get used to nipples looking like scallop sashimi. Need I say any more? Have fun with that."

    This is also a dickhead thing.

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  9. And they say People of Color can't be racist. I am ashamed of you.

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  11. this is total bull shit and the author is an idiot

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  12. Well? Zimmerman WAS right. And you'll be praying for a Zimmerman to come along, too; next time you're invited to a game of Knockout King, where your opponents will assuredly NOT be cursed with pink nipples.

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  13. This article is very racist towards white people. Please, don't date white people.

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  14. Just becuase your black doesnt mean you have any concept of race as this article shows

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  15. You are a disgusting bigot, holy shit.

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  16. As a white man dating a black girl I thought this was hilarious.
    Sorry about the trolls.

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  17. "You need to wait for them to apply sunscreen whenever you go out."
    I'm white and have paler skin than many other white people. This year I went on holiday and visited the local beach several times, staying for 1 to 2 hours on average. I didn't even bring any sunscreen and I didn't get sunburn at all.
    By the way, you're racist.

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  18. I'm white, I'm not just white; I'm ginger, pale with freckles. I love this... i found it hilarious and witty. For those of you saying this is racist.. get a grip. It doesn't insight racism, it doesn't suggest you don't date outside your colour and it's just a blog, not a fucking bill someone's trying to ratify in the senate.

    If you we eradicate every referee of difference between races, and pretend that every off the cuff remark in our society is some snide attempt at bullying/racism/sexism and reveals true character - then we greatly underestimate people regardless of their colour.

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